What are you grounded in? When someone asks you that, what comes to mind?
The list could go on and on…but the only solid and lasting answer to that is Christ. If you nourish your roots anywhere else but in the Savior and his sacrifice, you will always end up with a fractured heart and a wounded vision of who you are and what you are worth.
You see, when we bury our roots in the things of this world, even if they are good things like great relationships and successful careers, we will still come up empty at times. When we tie our worth and value to the things and people of this world it can shake our self confidence, reignite insecurities, and make us feel like we will never be enough or do enough or have enough. That’s the danger of planting our roots in things that are temporal.
“I am the vine. You are the branches. Those who live in me while I live in them will produce a lot of fruit. But you can’t produce anything without me.” (John 15:5 GW)
I am not saying that you shouldn’t pour your absolute best into your relationship and cherish it like the finest gold, because you should. However, one day something will be said, or something will remain unsaid, that crushes your spirit. One day something will happen that hurts your heart, that makes you feel less than beautiful or less than capable or less than appreciated and wanted.
I am not saying that you shouldn’t fight like fire for your children’s lives and their characters, because you should. However, some days you will feel taken advantage of, disrespected and unappreciated, and like you never get it right. The same goes for your job, church involvement, hobbies, and anything else that adds to your life and even brings you immense joy, but that is still something that is also of this world. Anything that is temporal can be taken away. Anything that is temporal is imperfect and is not capable of being your everything at every moment and always getting it right.
We tend to look to the people and the things of this world to make us happy and to make us feel complete and to create the self-worth that we all crave— but the problem is that the things and people of this world are just as flawed as we are. The things and people of this world are just as imperfect in their thoughts and actions as we are. So why are we looking to someone else or something else that has the same tendencies, the same faults and flaws, and expecting them to complete us or to validate us? It’s not fair to them and it’s not fair to us, and most of all it’s not fair to Jesus. He’s the one that paid the price with his crown of thorns, the nails in his hands and feet, the gash in his side, and the humiliation of being spit on, ridiculed, and mocked. This is what a sinless man went through because he loves us and doesn’t want heaven without us. Like the song says, he didn’t want heaven without us, so he brought Heaven down (‘What A Beautiful Name’ by Hillsong Worship)! Jesus is the only person of perfection. Jesus is the only place we should be seeking in order to be validated or find our self-worth. The only person and place that we are safe to bury our roots deeply. Jesus is the only unchanging, unfailing person in our entire existence.
“Since you have accepted Christ Jesus as Lord, live in union with him. 7 Keep your roots deep in him, build your lives on him, and become stronger in your faith, as you were taught. And be filled with thanksgiving.” (Colossians 2:6-7 GNT)
When you go to Jesus you never come back empty.
When you go to Jesus you are never seen as not enough.
When you go to Jesus you are never seen as insecure or incapable.
That’s why Jesus came here, that’s why Jesus chose us. He takes all of that away, he carries it for us. We were never meant to carry these things on our own …and we surely can’t bear them. If lately you have been feeling like you just can’t get it right, like you’re not good enough for anybody and feel you could never be loved or wanted the way you need to be— this is a warning sign that your roots are starting to surface. This means they are not buried in the right things and they are not grounded deeply enough.
We need to be in God’s Word daily to be reminded of the truth of our value and how loved and chosen we are. When everything in our life is going wrong, we can run to him and be reminded that no matter what anyone in this world thinks of us or no matter how much they may think we are a complete failure… Jesus speaks the truth and tells us that we are always more than enough. We are victorious through him and we need to look up instead of looking out. We need that vertical relationship with God to be genuinely rooted in who we are in order to not lose our joy. When we do that then nothing that happens horizontally around us in this world can shake us.
“But since they don’t have deep roots, they don’t last long. They fall away as soon as they have problems or are persecuted for believing God’s word.” (Mark 4:17 NLT)
But if our roots are rising to the surface because they are based on the wrong things, then we are in for a world of hurt; and the sad thing is that this is often a world of hurt that we have created ourselves. Listen to what God has to say about you. Save yourself the heartache and torment of trying to please everybody and trying to do everything and letting everything everyone says shatter another piece of your heart. When someone says something that hurts you, close your eyes and pray to God and tell him, “Lord, right now I need you to tell me how wonderful I am. I need you to show me how much you love me and how close to me you are right now. Help me believe that what I’m doing and who I am is enough”.
When someone disrespects you or doesn’t appreciate you, close your eyes and call out to God asking him to remind you just how wanted you are and much you mean this world and to His Kingdom. For situations that make you feel lonely and unworthy and provide an aching in your heart, run to God so that He can throw it away, wash it clean, and pour back into you with words of truth. Make sure your roots stay strong, that they continue to grow, and that they are watered by the only One who can mold and change you into who you were always designed to be.